How Do You Find Yourself Again After Loss or a Major Life Change? After grief, trauma, a relationship change, or another major disruption, you may find yourself saying: “I just want to feel like me again.” I understand that feeling personally. After my husband Brian died, I didn't recognize myself for a long time. I had once been optimistic and lighthearted, but suddenly I was looking at life through fear and pessimism. I wondered whether I would ever feel like the old Tricia